If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it. –Dr. John Kennell
Why I Wish Doulas Didn’t Exist
I imagine if you visited a culture in which birth was considered a normal event–a visible part of the community–the idea of hiring a doula would be laughable. Your intuitive knowledge of birth would be intact. You would believe that since you figured out how to digest your food and how to wake up after sleeping, you would, indeed, know how to birth. And the people around you would not only “let you,” they would support you and encourage you.
In our culture, birth is private. Typically we retreat into the den of medicine, technology, and malpractice to celebrate our journey into motherhood. Once entangled in this trinity, we are pinned and wriggling on the wall so how should we presume?
And we need instruction and authority and equipment to deliver.
Some families hire a doula. A woman who has attended many types of births. A woman who can navigate the intricacies of the system. I do believe that whether planning a medicated birth, a cesarean, or a low intervention experience, families can enjoy the best outcomes with a doula at their side. The doula becomes the surrogate community that is missing in our culture–she provides support from early pregnancy coffee shop talks to postpartum home visits. And she is the advocate–working for the family and no one else; no hidden agendas, no judgment, and no insurance company to answer to. And–she is pretty inexpensive considering she is on call 24/7 for you. She’s less expensive than an epidural and probably less expensive than the bill from your wedding florist.
The fact that the profession of doula exists is merely one symptom of a deep isolation, fear, mystery, and sterility surrounding birth. So while I love being a doula, I’m sad that the profession is necessary. I wish that our community guarded the sacred transformative power of birth instead of timing it, numbing it, sterilizing it, insuring it, managing it.
I offer a free birth consultation which will hopefully give resources and ideas for an empowering and healthy birth. I’m not a “sales” kind of person. But I do have a passion to serve pregnant couples whether they hire me as a doula or not. I am always happy to talk about ideas or help plan a positive birth experience. If finances are limited, I may be able to find a new doula or doula-in-training to help.
I am available for doula services and private childbirth classes in upstate, SC –including Greenville, Easley, Anderson, Greer.
*Virtual Doula Services available during COVID-19 for clients concerned that a doula will not be permitted into the hospital.
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