Kristin Abboud took my Hypno-Doula training in January 2011. I asked her to blog her first Hypnobabies birth experience. Her clients were first time parents who took my class and gave birth at Oconee Memorial. Kristin is a Bradley Instructor and now teaches at The Birth Haven in Lexington, Kentucky.
I was fully planning on studying up on hypnosis and Hypnobabies to be certified as a Hynobabies doula 2 weeks prior to the due date of a couple I would be attending in labor, so when the dad called me 3 weeks before their due date I was nervous.
All I have ever known about hypnosis is that you get called out of a crowd to go up on stage and make a fool out of yourself doing crazy things. How in the world was that going to translate to labor? I soon found out.
I knew the basics. Hypno-tools like the light-switch, cue word, and special safe place. I had learned that hypnosis can be powerful. I learned that a lot of the time, as a hypnobabies doula, you don’t really do much. I was skeptical.
I went to their home and all was calm…too calm. Went for a walk. Came back and mom laid down to rest and listen to a hypnosis script while I crocheted. About 20 minutes later dad came in and tells me mom is crying, pressure waves are intense and they want to go to the hospital.
Transferring slows everything down, but dad is assertive about communicating with the nurse their wishes and what hypnosis is all about – quiet. Only positive communication can be used around a momma in hypnosis. She internalizes everything and that will be what she feels and perceives.
I have to say that I was antsy to get things moving. She didn’t seem to be making progress visibly. She listened to scripts through ear phones and barely made a peep. Once in a while she would say “peace” or make a little moan. It was during scripts that the most work seemed to be getting done. Vaginal exams were refused. I wanted to DO something. Shouldn’t we be walking, swaying, massaging, praising, encouraging, timing? Shouldn’t she be breathing harder, moaning, groaning, snapping, needing?
Time, time was what was needed. There were hints and clues here and there that things were progressing. I couldn’t tell when a pressure wave began or subsided so timing was no use. When she was on the monitor we caught a glimpse of her waves. They would rise half way and hold on for 2 minutes or longer. I watched her when they would start, peak and end. Her hypnosis was so well practiced and trusted, she hardly flinched at the pressure.
Patience was of the utmost importance. Dad seemed to overflow with it. He trusted as well. I, on the other hand, was getting worried that she was too relaxed and this was never going to happen. Again, I kept thinking about all the things we could be doing and trying. I texted my wise friend and Hypnobabies instructor for advice. She said there wasn’t anything better to do than the hypnosis stuff, and to think of it as “supporting her brain rather than her body”.
There it was again, patience. Patience is not my forte. I can feign it pretty well though! ;)
She slid into pushing without much fuss, although I could tell she didn’t want to give in to it. I would love to attend more Hypnobabies trained moms to see what pushing is like for them because again, not much seemed to be happening. Dad and I decided to put the pushing script on which is to be played out loud. 2-3 nurses and the doctor were there to hear it. Mom had maybe 2 pressure waves during the 20 minute script. When it ended, it was like a complete turn-around. Mom got down to business and her baby emerged in no time. And just like that mom flipped a switch and was fully present and eating up every delicious feature of her sweet baby girl.
I’m sold. Hypnosis for birth works.